I've just added an article at www.MidlifeMaze.com about why you may be hearing your husband describe your marriage and your life together in a way that doesn't match with what you remember.
Before you start questioning your own sanity you may want to read the article and understand what is going on for him that he now has a very different take on things.
Try to remember that this really is all about him, it's not about you and it's not aimed at you. If you can remember that, you will be able to see his behaviour for what it is and hopefully feel less hurt by it. That is a big step in learning to detach from him, it's allowing him to go through whatever he has to without making it about you and suffering for it.
I'd love to hear your comments once you have read the article
Welcome to Midlife Wife Support
For the Wives of Midlife Crisis Men
You would think that midlife would be a time to sit back and reap the rewards, really wouldn't you?I mean, by the middle of our lives we have a couple of decades of adulthood behind us. We have launched and worked hard at careers, marriages, families all those things we aspired to achieve. Yet for so many of us it is a time to see those things fall apart.
Midlife Transition is a natural passage of adulthood, we all reach a point where we assess and evaluate our progress in life, we take stock, tweak a few things or even overhaul them and set a direction for the next stage of our lives.
The Transition process is as individual as we are, for some it is barely noticeable, an integral part of our daily life, for others it is a time of reflection and introspection. For others though the Transition can hit a brick wall and can turn into a full blown crisis. When this is the case, the sufferer themselves is often completely unaware, it is their partner who suffers.
If you are the partner, the wife who is left wondering what happened to your husband, your marriage and your life, then this blog is for you.
If you are seeing your marriage fall apart as you watch your husband go through a midlife crisis then I hope you will find useful information / thoughts / musings here to help you get through this time.
My whole point in publishing this blog is to help you to see that their crisis is their own issue. No matter how much you want to, you can't fix it for them. No matter how badly you want to help them, you really can't. It is an inner journey that they need to go on and you are not being offered a companion ticket!
You will do best if you can turn your energy and attention toward yourself. You see, you are going through a crisis of your own and although you cannot save your husband or do his inner work for him, you must do your own inner work and save yourself!
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Excellent article and rang so, so true. It is like they are writing about my husband.
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